For a woman a massage is a relaxing, enjoyable hour or so of healing therapy, atmospheric lighting, gorgeous scented oils, plinky plonky relaxation music and a professional therapist all leading to a relaxed, cosy, if slightly sleepy feeling of happiness.
It’s when you bring men into the equation that it all seems to go wrong, ‘you’re going for a massage?’ snigger snigger ‘has she got big knockers?’ snigger snigger. ‘Is it one of THOSE massage parlours?’ and so on and so on………
When I opened Chic4Eva and didn’t stipulate a ‘NO MEN’ policy I even had comments from friends and relatives worried about what I would have to deal with. All of these comments are very demeaning to men suggesting that they don’t need or deserve a professional, relaxing therapeutic massage and are unable to ‘keep it in their pants’ for a couple of hours.
There are of course those awkward phone calls from the gentleman who asks ‘How intimate is your full body massage’ and hangs up when I answer ‘not THAT intimate’, but on the whole, what I have discovered over the years is that this is the exact opposite of how men feel, in fact many men are terrified to the point of it ruining the massage that their little friend will rear his head and cause embarrassment! Any potential clients should put their minds to rest as, according to the Institute for Integrative Health Care Studies, erections during a massage are common. It is entirely possible to be physiologically aroused without emotional or sexual desire. I think most massage therapists and definitely this massage therapist, have seen erections on male clients before, it is not a cause for embarrassment and will not even be mentioned. Female clients often report similar aroused feelings, just because the arousal is not as obvious doesn’t mean it’s not there!
At the beginning of the session you will be asked to fill in a treatment form, then you will be left alone to undress in the room and lie on the couch under a towel pants may be kept on for modesty or removed, if you are going to wear pants smaller brief type pants are best to avoid getting oil on them when massaging the lower back or thighs.
Another thing that many men are not sure about is whether or not they should talk throughout the massage. This one is down to personal choice, some men like to relax completely and even drift off (drooling is allowed), others like to chat throughout the treatment and enjoy the chat as much as the massage. Don’t be afraid to speak up if something is not to your liking, it is your treatment and you are paying for it, if you’d like a firmer pressure, more time spent on a specific muscle group, or are too hot or cold just ask!
Tipping is not obligatory but if you have had a wonderful time it is welcomed.